I remember looking down at my waistband and thinking “What the heck is that? That was never there before.” I stepped on the scale and realized that there was 40 lbs. of gut hanging over my waistband. Seeing that gut was like a punch in the gut. I was in my mid-twenties. I had always been a skinny kid and therefore, extremely self-conscious about my body. In my teens I was afraid to take my t-shirt off at the beach or swimming at a friends house because I thought everyone would laugh at the hole where my chest was supposed to be. Once I started dating, my girlfriend would reassure me that she found me attractive and my body was fine, but I wouldn’t believe her, thinking “You’re just saying that to make me feel better.” I had always felt ashamed of my body, but when I realized there was 40 lbs. of fat hanging over my waistband while I had toothpick arms and legs--that was my breaking point.
I wanted to lose the fat and gain some muscle, so I would get to a place where I liked what I saw in the mirror and felt good about my body.
In my mind, I struggled with the idea that I was worthy of feeling good about myself or that I deserved it.
I hated my body and thought that I had to punish it and punish myself for being so weak and out of shape. I fed right into the common wisdom of weight loss--do hours of boring cardio and starve yourself. The standard deprivation, “pay for your sins”, approach.
Can you guess what happened?
I’d stick with it for a few weeks until my willpower gave out or until something stressful happened. Or I’d run up against the limit of my identity-- “Who are you trying to kid--you’ll always be the weak, skinny guy.” or “You’re not worth it, so why bother trying?” I’d think to myself. Then I’d give up. Have you “been there, done that”? Has that happened to you?
At the same time, I was copying what I saw other people doing or copying what I read in magazines that would say one thing one month, then contradict it in the next issue. I was so confused about both exercise and nutrition, because there is so much confusing, conflicting information out there. So I was frustrated because I wasn’t getting anywhere.
Then I made two major shifts in my thinking that turned things around for me. First, I thought, “What if I used exercise and nutrition as as a means of valuing myself and bringing my highest values and priorities into reality?” With that shift in thinking, working out and eating healthy became something I wanted to do because I saw how it was benefiting me and my life, rather than something I dreaded and felt forced to do because “I was bad.” I realized that change had to begin with the mind and they way that you think about exercise and nutrition, and changing your behavior and habits from there. I had been doing the opposite--trying to change what I was doing without changing my thinking--so I kept falling back into old habits and patterns. Once I changed my thinking, I was able to permanently change my behaviors and habits and most importantly--change my results!
Secondly, rather than following what other people were doing in the gym or the crap I was reading in magazines, I decided to learn from experts who teach and guide people to get into shape for a living. I picked up a personal trainer certification manual and nutrition books and started studying them. As I applied what I was learning, I finally started seeing results.
I got to the point where--for the first time in my life--I felt good about my body and felt comfortable in my own skin. My confidence skyrocketed! It was such a powerful feeling, I knew I had to share it with the world. I became a personal trainer and nutrition coach and started Cause and Effects Fitness to help others on their journey from frustrated to fit and feeling great!
Why This Matters To You.
You don’t have to go through all of the trial and error, frustration, and setbacks that I went through. I’ve already cut through the confusion (and downright misleading information) and can show you an easier and faster way than trying to figure it all out on your own and doing it alone. We’ve done the hard work for you and can save you the most precious resource there is--TIME.
Through our proven system of personal training, nutrition, and mindset coaching we can guide you to your goals, hold you accountable to them, and help you achieve them in the efficient way. Most importantly, we help you achieve lasting results by helping you incorporate healthy habits into your lifestyle, so you can maintain those results for the rest of your life.
I’m looking forward to walking with you on your journey to a fitter, healthier, and happier you.
To your health,